A tragic circle closes
LAST Sunday, a windy late September morning in Cheyenne, a tragic story from long ago came full circle.
Prayers were said, a new tombstone was unveiled and tears were shed at the grave of Sally Levin, who was laid to rest here on another Cheyenne morning, in August, 1937, a few days after she was slain by her own father.
The short life of Sally Levin, who was only 16 years old when she was killed, was described in detail by the Intermountain Jewish News a few months ago (The Sad, Sad Story of Sally Levin, June 28, 2013).
It was a tale of a young woman whose life was upended by mental illness, who feared the prospect of commitment to an insane asylum so much that she begged her father, respected Cheyenne merchant Sam Levin, to kill her, and whose father did as he was asked.
On Aug. 16, 1937, Levin killed his daughter with a handgun and tried unsuccessfully to kill himself. In a sensational trial, he was eventually convicted of manslaughter but sentenced only to five years probation.
Shortly after his conviction, Levin and the rest of his family left Cheyenne and never looked back.
The story was brought back to light after years in the shadows an almost literal skeleton in the family closet by Suzanne Handler, a niece of Sally Levin, who lives in Greenwood Village and who, ironically, had worked for years in the mental health field.
Handler uncovered the story of her ill-fated aunt bit by bit, retrieving scraps from the few relatives who would discuss the case, newspaper accounts and official documents.
The story she was ultimately able to glean from her research and the lessons about family secrets and mental illness that she derived from it resulted in Handlers book, The Secrets They Kept, published earlier this year
The book, to some degree, provided Handler with a sense of closure that she needed after growing up in a family that kept its dark and painful secrets very close to its chest.
LAST Sunday, however, provided her with an opportunity to give not only full closure to herself, but to her long-deceased Aunt Sally a tragic figure whom she never had the opportunity to meet.
Accompanied by her rabbi, Richard Rheins of Temple Sinai, life companion Jerry Newman, a handful of friends and relatives and representatives of Cheyennes Mt. Sinai Congregation, Handler provided her aunt with a proper memorial at last.
The stone that had reposed over her grave for 76 years incorrectly misspelled her name as Salie, an error which to Handler symbolized not only the neglect of Sallys grave it went unvisited by relatives for decades but the virtual obliteration of her memory from the familys collective mind.
The earlier, misspelled, tombstone was left in place, Handler told the IJN this week, after the rabbi suggested that it could serve as a historical marker of sorts, a reminder of the fact that just as Sally Levins life was troubled and unsettled, so was her death.
The new stone, bearing Sallys name in English and Hebrew, her dates of birth and death and a Hebrew inscription, was placed below the original.
Denvers Erickson Monuments made the stone, Handler said, adding that Ericksons Michael Zelinger was amazingly helpful as the firm worked to place the unusual order for a marker nearly eight decades after its subjects death.
Rabbi Rheins asked Handlers children to remove the cloth from the new stone and said a few prayers, including Kaddish, during the brief ceremony at the Mt. Sinai Cemetery.
Poems were read and the mourners were encouraged to read a silent meditation.
It was, Handler said, as emotional as she expected it to be.
I was sobbing through the whole thing, she said, but at the end of the day I felt and continue to feel a sense of peace and closure and thats what I was looking for. I was in tears for a lot of the morning, and I felt very peaceful afterwards.
For me, it was more about what she didnt get at the time of her passing the fact that she was left there all those years. This should have been done a long time ago.
It was sadness mixed with peacefulness thats the word that keeps coming into my head. She can lie there for eternity and its all right. I think we did the right thing, mourning the loss of this child who was so young and also celebrating her life.
DURING the service, Handler said she kept thinking of her grandfather, Sallys father, and her mother, Sallys sister, and wondered what they would think of this long-delayed ceremony on behalf of their loved one.
Handler said she was very grateful when Jeff Weinstein of Mt. Sinai informed her after the service that Sallys yahrzeit would now be placed on the congregations permanent roll of names, meaning that her name will be read in the synagogue once a year.
The fact that Sallys memory is no longer lost in oblivion, as it has been for so long, seems especially meaningful to her niece.
The Hebrew inscription on the new tombstone reads, in English: She will not be forgotten.
Handler says she is not a particularly religious person, and admits she has no idea whether any sort of afterlife follows ones mortal existence. During the service last Sunday, she didnt give a thought to the notion that the restless Wyoming wind might have been Sallys spirit watching over her mourners.
But if Sally could sense whats going on if one can believe that and if she is aware of what we did or what wasnt done, wouldnt my grandfather also have awareness of this? Handler speculated.
And if so, wouldnt he want peace, too, for both of them? Are they now relieved?
Handler admits that she doesnt know, but she does know that she herself experienced peace and relief in that Cheyenne cemetery this week.
And that it was considerable.
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