ROSH HASHANAH EDITION 5782 SECTION D PAGE 19
A new city for my husband and me.
A new job for one of my children.
A new year soon to begin for us all.
Still, “new” is not how I feel.
Adrift. Unmoored. Those are words to describe me right now.
Instead of downsizing, my husband and I recently purchased a bigger house in his childhood town. He’s as happy as a clam, driving along familiar streets, catching up with old friends.
Me? I’m afraid of car accidents as I struggle to adjust to driving at break-neck speeds along unfamiliar roadways. Do I go left? Do I go right? Come on, Siri! Speak up! Why is WiFi so spotty here? Darn it! Speak up! Lives are at stake! My life is at stake!
And, oh, about this bigger house … it occurred to me last night — I scarcely make use of the space. There’s a “casita” — a separate little “house” — which, once painted and carpeted, will be my husband’s office. Right now, it’s vacant.
The “main” casa has a guestroom, a “billiards parlor” aka the room for the new pool table, plus a massive “other” room we don’t even know what to do with! It’s presently set up as one of those tricked-out big-screen media rooms, but we don’t watch that much TV. My husband says we could use it as an exercise room, but we don’t exercise that much either!
Right now, the house is getting a facelift. No, make that a total body re-construction. We’re re-doing the floors — hardwood in some places; new carpet in others. We’re painting too. And just yesterday, we discovered mold. An upstairs bathroom is leaking into the downstairs bathroom, which, requires a partial demo.
Fun, huh? More accurately, can you spell money literally going down the toilet?
For some people, re-decorating is enjoyable. A hobby. For me, it’s terrifying — like parachuting or roller skating.
Besides, I have no patience. I want things done in a flash. Second, I have no patience. Oh, I’m repeating myself. Well, you get the point.
Also, while not exactly color-blind, I am color anxious. Picking the right shade of yellow, gray, beige — or even white — causes a panic attack.
Since I’m clearly not the Queen of Redecorating, you quite logically might say, “Get a grip. Stop griping. Get out of the house, and do something useful for the greater good.”
I quite agree. That is what I should do. That is what I’d like to do. And normally that is what I would do. Unfortunately, these are not normal times. We are still living under the cloud of COVID-19, and I now live in a community where vaccination rates and mask compliance are problematic.
So, I worry. How do I go “out there,” when “out there” is risky? And if “out there” is risky, what is my next best option?
The answer: doing what I love most: spending time “in here” — in my writer-y head, putting words to paper, or at least, words to computer screen.
Yet, even that poses a challenge. Since my office is set to be demo-ed for the new hardwood floor and a top-to-bottom painting, I cannot put my desk in place or unpack my books. Minor challenges perhaps, but they do mess with my “zen.” And right now, I’ve got a yen for a little zen.
But I as I write about these short-term minor domestic inconveniences, I realize how inordinately fortunate I am amid profound, catastrophic global suffering.
In fact, the very act of sitting “anchored” at my desk — now parked beside the kitchen counter — has helped calm me and cancel that feeling of being “unmoored” I described at the top of this essay. I feel refreshed, ready to face the New Year — 5782 — with gratitude, joy and renewed purpose.
So, contrary to what I initially thought, I am ready for new beginnings. Le-shana Tova to all. Here’s to happy, healthy adventures as we all set forth on new roadways.
